Harshada Desai: Boundaries every adult must set with parents. For many adults in India, saying no to parents about career, marriage, or finances feels harder than any other conversation. Yet, healthy boundaries are not disrespectful; they protect mental well-being and improve relationships. In an interview with HT Lifestyle, mental health counsellor Harshada Desai outlined five essential boundaries every Indian adult should set.
The first is financial boundaries. Harshada noted that open-ended financial support often creates resentment. She advised setting a clear, communicated amount rather than relying on guilt-driven whatever you need. Second, decision-making boundaries involve distinguishing between a parent’s opinion and permission. Wanting the former is healthy; needing the latter keeps someone stuck, she said.
Third, time and access boundaries matter. Daily calls or unannounced visits can erode independence. Harshada recommended naming a workable rhythm, like a weekly call instead of daily. Fourth, emotional boundaries are crucial, especially for eldest children and daughters who act as emotional caretakers. She emphasized saying, I can listen, but I can’t fix this for you. Finally, boundaries around unsolicited advice help. A calm I hear you, but I’ve decided repeated consistently works better than confrontation.
In conclusion, Harshada stressed that boundaries do not break parent-child relationships. Resentment from no boundaries causes more damage than an honest limit ever does. For adults in India, these boundaries are sustainable ways to nurture closeness while protecting personal peace.